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And quite frankly, many are confused, overwhelmed and feeling like deer caught in the headlights.

That’s why Pam Perry, a 20-year public relations professional turned social media strategist and owner of Social Media PR Solutions in Farmington Hills, has made it her mission to help business owners, ministers, authors and other “expert” types get a grip on social media marketing.

She has cracked the code and is often called the "Queen of Online Media" or "Social Media Guru" by Detroit Radio One personality, Angelo Henderson.

“Social Media Day is not a party for everyone.  There are a lot of folks, especially baby boomers who are feeling lost when it comes to marketing using the internet. Their lack of technical skills makes them feel uncomfortable with the new social media – which seems to changing at a rapid speed every day,”

“It’s quite scary to them and they don’t know who to ask or who to trust to show them the right way to leverage online marketing,” said Perry.

Typically Social Media Day is a world wide event where social media enthusiasts gather and share their tips.  But, if you just want to learn the basic steps of social media and online video marketing, there has never been a place for beginners to collaborate on social media day – until this year.

Perry and her colleagues have organized a Social Media and Online Video Marketing 101 laptop workshop,Saturday, June 30, 2012 from 11:00 AM to 3:00 PM (ET) 32737 W 12 Mile Rd., Farmington Hills, Michigan. People can register at http://www.pamperry.org

“The explosion of social media is something you can no longer ignore – if you want to grow profits, build a brand, maintain success or remain relevant.“We are going to stand over attendees laptops and show them there is nothing to fear – and give them the confidence to get their social media swagger,” said Perry.

Baby boomers, authors, speakers, ministry leaders, coaches, non-profit professionals and service professionals will learn the basics social media and online video marketing in this easy hands-on session on Saturday, June 30. Registration is required. Go to http://www.pamperry.org

For those who are over the age of 50 and have been unemployed for more than three months, Perry’s group is offering to scholarship their registration fee, which is $147.  For more information, email: pam (at) socialmediaprsolutions.com or call (248) 426-2300.

Walk with Boldness

In her daily devotional, Promises for Daily Living, Joyce Meyer encourages all believers to walk our purpose with boldness.  Theme Scripture: Proverbs 28:1

Walk with Boldness

Some people exude boldness, while others struggle with living boldly as a loved child of God. I had that problem until God showed me some important keys that helped me live boldly, and I want to share them with you.

1. Refuse to live in fear. Fear is an epidemic in our society. The Bible instructs us in Hebrews 10:38 to live by faith and not draw back in fear.

2. Put setbacks behind you. You are not a failure because you try new things and they don't work out. You fail only when you stop trying. Don't be afraid to make mistakes, and if you do, recover quickly and press on.

3. Don't draw comparisons. Boldness will be impossible as long as you compare yourself to others. Boldness comes from accepting who you are and being the best you can be.

4. Be willing to take action. Search your heart and ask yourself what you believe God wants you to do, and then do it.

Pray over these four keys, and ask the Holy Spirit to help you live them out. Hold up your head and be filled with boldness.

Prayer Starter: Holy Spirit, I want boldness to be one of my defining traits. Help me to live out these four keys by Your strength.

Who Says You're Too Old to Fulfill Your Dream?

Break A Record!      

At Any Age!      

              

Completing questionnaires I found great joy in checking off the box in the 18-25 year old age range when I was younger. It represented endless possibilities in living and fulfilling my dreams. Gradually, I've etched beyond that place where the world was my playground to do with whatever I willed. In many instances, I did.

As I've emerged beyond that age, I've come to realize that those categories are there for one purpose and that is to garner statistical information. It in no way can limit me from living my dreams and fulfilling my purpose. All too often people allow age to limit them and they stop dreaming and they stop living, especially if their age has etched past the 35-plus mark. God forbid if they are over 40, 50 or 60!

Our expectancy decreases primarily because our society indoctrinates us to think that as we mature we become useless. God never said that. I've come to realize that each age brings new nuances and new expectations. Regardless if you are in the first, second, third or fourth trimester of life you can still live your dreams and fulfill your purpose.

Think about it, when you were in the age bracket of 18-25 there was so much you didn't know, yet you had such anticipation for your future. Howbeit you combine all the wisdom you've garnered to truly become all God created you to be as you have matured. Who says that you are too old or even too young for that matter? If you can dream it, you can do it!

Recently, I've found a hero, a 75-year young woman, Ernestine Shepherd, who is the oldest female bodybuilder alive. Guess what, she didn't start exercising until she was in her mid-fifties! Now that is a wow for you! I'm decades her junior but my body doesn't look anywhere near hers.

In essence, she has not allowed age to stop her from living her dreams. She envisioned her dream and she set out to accomplish it. That she has done! What an awesome role model not just for seniors but for everyone! She holds the Guinness World Record as the oldest female bodybuilder. Wow! You can break records at any age! You don't have to be confined to the status quo!

You know, there is a reason God in His infinite wisdom impregnated Mary and Elizabeth at the same time; a young virgin girl barely old enough to give birth and an older woman well-passed her child-bearing years. Each of them carried the seed of purpose and promise. Neither one of them, because they understood the dream seed placed inside of them, allowed their age, open ridicule and scorn to prevent them from fulfilling their purpose.  

You see, Mary and Elizabeth understood that the seed they carried was not about them, but about the will of God. As much as they understood the purpose of their seed, they also understood the purpose of each other. In doing so, it brought even more clarity to their respective assignments.

A number in time is all your age is all about. It is a number that God has provided to you for you to celebrate His gift of time, but never to limit you. When we allow age to prevent us from embracing and living our dreams and life to its fullest, we take God's precious gift and throw it back in His face. We do not hold the gift as sacred. Embracing the sacredness of the gift is when we maximize every minute God has given us to fulfill His purpose for our lives in the earth realm. That is celebrating your age! Now go break a record!

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Jacqui A. Showers., The Showers Group Ministries

Conquer Your Ai

Conquer your Ai

In view of their past victories, Joshua and his men expected Ai to be an easy win. Instead they experienced defeat because of one man's disobedience. After dealing with the seed of sin in the camp, God called Joshua to round up the people and return to the place of their recent defeat.

In your life journey, there will be setbacks and possibly even failures. There will certainly be situations that you did not plan for. There were many attempts to the moon before the first successful manned mission of Apollo 11. Do not be influenced or discouraged by your previous failed attempts. The God who has given you the vision will give you victory.

If you have done something wrong that has the potential to jeopardise your mission, repent today. Lay it at the foot of the cross in the presence of God.
Make a decision not to repeat your past mistake. View failure as a learning opportunity rather than a destination or life sentence.

Persistence and determination are two essential ingredients to a successful space mission.

Return to that abandoned goal, dream or vision that is essential to your arrival on the moon. Face it, overcome it and conquer your Ai.

Fight the Good Fight - Joyce Meyer, Promises for Everyday Living

I'm baaaaaaack! It's been quite a while since I've posted a blog, but I want you to know that I'm back and plan to step up my blogging game.  Nearly every day I start out early in the morning (as the bible instructs us) seeking God, reading devotionals or writing in my prayer journal.  Many days before I get out of be I simple "listen" for instructions.  Currently I'm reading is Joyce Meyer's Promises for Every Day Living, which is a 365 Day  devotional online at www.youversion.com.  I love this website because I can not only read it online, but on my Kindle and as an app on my smartphone.  No matter which version I read, I can start where I left off.  But I disgress...Today's devotional message stood out so profoundly that I had to share with you because I've been on a quest to know more and do better as a Christian woman and as a citizen in general.  Several of the bullet points listed are areas I've been focusing on.  Enjoy!

We are to "fight the good fight of faith" against the enemy - but what does that look like practically? Here are six key strategies:

1. Think aggressively. Plan and calculate, like a general preparing for battle, how to engage and defeat the enemy.

2. Pray fervently. Hebrews 4:16 instructs us to approach God's throne confidently. Step forward with confidence and tell Him what you need.

3. Speak fearlessly. First Peter 4:11 (AMP) says, "Whoever speaks, [let him do it as one who utters] oracles of God." You and I are to have a spiritually commanding voice against the forces of evil.

4. Give abundantly. The way we give is the way we receive (see Luke 6:38). Live a life of generosity.

5. Work intently. Whatever we put our hand to, we need to do it aggressively (see Eccl. 9:10). Stir yourself up in the Holy Spirit and get the job done.

6. Love unconditionally. As children of God, we must love others as God loves us, unconditionally and sacrificially.

Take these steps, and when the enemy comes, you'll be filled with God's power and unbeatable.

Prayer Starter: Lord, I don't want to sit back and miss the fight You've called me to. As I move forward, show me how to apply these six strategies in my fight against the enemy.

9 Things You Shouldn't Say to Your Husband

One of the best parts about marriage is being so comfortable with your hubby that you can say just about anything to him. But if you don’t watch your mouth, sometimes the ugly truth comes out in hurtful—not helpful––ways. Though you may have legitimate concerns to express or issues to bring up, doing so in a harsh manner can be damaging in the long term, to both your husband’s feelings and your relationship. According to Judy Ford, psychotherapist and author of Every Day Love, “Speaking kindly is a skill that couples have to learn. Everyone feels battered by life and the outside world. You shouldn’t feel that way at home.” Here, nine statements that you should never utter to your significant other––and the words that you should try instead.

1. “Yes, I had an orgasm.” (when you didn’t) 

Lying is never a great idea, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. “The definition of intimacy is letting another person see your vulnerabilities,” says Ford, and that includes admitting that your sex life might need some S.O.S. When you pretend you’re enjoying sex, you may think that you’re sparing his feelings, but you’re actually pushing him away by not being honest. And chances are, you aren’t fooling him: The very fact that he’s asking usually means he suspects that something is up. When broaching the subject, start with the positive: “Express appreciation of the fact that he even wants to know—‘that’s so thoughtful of you, honey,’” suggests Ford. Then, while you’re both clothed and not in the bedroom, bring up some things you enjoy sexually and that you would like to try in order to enhance the experience next time around, taking care not to place blame on him. By emphasizing what arouses you and what you two can do in the future, you’ll spare his feelings without duping him in the process. Photo: Siri Stafford / Thinkstock

2. “You’re just like your father. 

“This is just a no-no,” says Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker and author of The Pathway to Love. “It’s nasty and belittling, and it gets at his fear that he may be exhibiting the worst traits of his family.” If you’re about to spout a criticism like this, stop and think about what’s behind it: Maybe your father-in-law is the kind of guy who never cleans up after himself, and your husband’s habit of leaving dirty dishes around the house is getting to you. According to Ford, you should skip the insult and get right to a reasonable request, such as: “Hon, when you’re done with your sandwich, can you bring your dish over to the sink?” That way, you can achieve your goals without hurting him in the process. Photo: Shutterstock

3. “When are you going to find a new job?” 

First, figure out why you want him to find a new job so badly. Do you dislike how much time he spends away from home? Do you think he can or should be further ahead career-wise? Is he not bringing home a healthy-enough salary? “Before you say anything that could be hurtful to him, think about what your own issues are,” says Ford. Be particularly careful that you're not attacking his ability to support you and the kids: “Part of how a man evaluates himself is by how well he can take care of his family,” says Ford, so insulting him in this sensitive area can be a serious blow. To avoid this, have regular talks about both of your jobs, career ambitions and budget concerns. If you have an issue with how much money he’s making, “it’s an opportunity to talk about your lifestyle and how you want to live,” she adds. The aim is to avoid putting him on the defensive, and instead work together to create the life you both want. Photo: Shutterstock

4. “My mother warned me you’d do this!” 

Something must have seriously infuriated you, because what you’re doing here is letting him know that there are others in your “camp.” “You are trying to validate your ‘side’ of an argument, as though you’re marshalling an army to your side,” says Orlov. But that’s never a good idea because it’s telling him that you’re not on his side, or on the side of your relationship. Though you should never let the opinions of others’ dictate your relationship, if there is some kernel of truth to a concern that your mother raised, think about how to address that. “Maybe your mother said ‘he’s too cheap,’” says Orlov. “Say to him, ‘why do you sometimes seem reluctant to spend money on things we need?’” Without ganging up on him, that could open up a discussion about money worries that stem from his childhood, for example. “Room is now cleared for creative problem-solving,” says Orlov. And if you’re just lashing out? Hold your tongue and focus on the root of what’s making you mad. In the end, coming to a solution together will make you feel better than unleashing hurtful words. Photo: Shutterstock

5. “Just leave it––I’ll do it myself! 

This is hurtful in two ways. First, it gets at your husband’s elemental need to be a provider, supporter and capable person in the house. Second, it’s just plain demeaning for any adult to hear that his efforts are sub-par. Do this too often and your husband might think, “I can never do anything right or anything that’ll please her,” says Ford. A better choice is to pick your battles. If he’s in the middle of a task and you think that he’s doing it wrong, evaluate whether it really matters, keeping in mind that, just because he’s doing something differently than you would doesn’t mean that he’s doing it wrong—he is, after all, an adult too. Sure, if he’s about to hurt himself or someone else or break something, kindly step in. But if he’s just loading the dishwasher in a way that drives you nuts? Let it be. Photo: Thinkstock

6. “You always... [fill in the blank]” or “You never... [fill in the blank]” 

“These are two phrases I advise couples never to use,” says Ford, “because they set up an instant, negative tone; they halt communication and they put the other person on the defensive.” These blanket statements can make your husband feel unfairly attacked, and chances are he’ll just fire back with all the times he did help. If there are legitimate problems you’d like to address (he really does tend to leave his tools all over the garage floor or often forgets to put gas in the car after driving it), avoid generalizing and try to focus on the issue at hand while also communicating how his actions make you feel: “When you come home with an empty tank of gas, I feel like you don't care about the next person who has to drive the car—which is usually me.” Then add the phrase “would you be willing...,” suggests Ford. Try: “Would you be willing to fill up the car when it gets below a quarter tank?” Most men are willing to do most anything that’ll make you happy––it’s all in how you ask. Photo: Shutterstock

7. “Do you really think those pants are flattering?”

Are you trying to hint that he’s putting on weight? Because saying the above, says Ford, is not getting anything concrete across. You may think that you’re subtly conveying the message, but instead you’re insulting his looks without showing any genuine concern for his health. Instead, start with something you like about how he looks: “When you wear that blue shirt, it really makes me appreciate your gorgeous blue eyes.” Then broach the topic of his weight gain by framing the comment so it’s about his health, not looks: “Honey, what do you think about us both starting after-dinner walks?” When you’ve softened up your approach, you have more room to make other, helpful suggestions. Photo: Thinkstock

8. “Ugh, we’re hanging out with him again? 

There’s nothing wrong with your guy having a friend whose company you don’t love—no one says spouses are required to adore each other’s friends, especially that one college pal who likes to pretend he and your hubby never left the frat house. What is wrong is insulting your man’s choice of friends. Your disdain may also suggest that you’d prefer to pick his friends for him—and no one wants to be told who they should be pals with. A better choice: “Oh, honey, you know I don’t always enjoy doing the same things as you and George, so why don’t you plan a guys’ night instead?’” suggests Ford. Remember, there’s no marriage rule that says you two have to do everything together; he might actually be relieved to have a little guy time with his pal that doesn't involve him having to worry if you’re having fun or are offended by his friend’s jokes. (And keep this in mind: If a friend is really awful, your husband is much more likely to see that on his own, over time, whereas if you nag him to drop the dolt it may never happen.) Photo: Paul Bradbury / Getty Images

9. “Please watch the kids. But don’t do this, take them here or forget that...” 

This is a classic nervous-new-mom move: When you’re in anxiety mode, it can be hard to let go of childcare tasks (even though you would love to have more help). It’s also an attitude that can become a habit no matter how long you’ve been a mom, leading to some very unhealthy feelings: You may become resentful because he doesn’t pitch in, but you don’t always give him room to, either. At the end of the day, no husband is going to be inspired to be a better, more hands-on and involved dad if his every effort is shot down, says Orlov. “If he always feels like he’s wrong, he’ll only start to disconnect emotionally.” So let Dad be Dad. Trust that he knows as well as you do how to keep a child clean, safe and fed—even if his definitions of those tasks are slightly different than your own. That said, if there are things he needs to know, like how to use the stroller or what the pediatrician’s phone number is, definitely give him the rundown. Photo: Shutterstock

Read more: How To Talk To Your Husband - What Not To Say To Your Husband - Woman's Day 

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More of My Fave Fives

It's been a long time since I shared my favorites and needless to say I've added some to my list; as well as replaced some.  Just like my thought pattern tends to be, this list is "random" and of no particular order.  Here goes.

Skin Care;

Hands down I still love TimeWise by Mary Kay for my daily facial skin care regime.











Around the House: LA's Totally Awesome All-Purpose Cleaner (Dollar stores carry it!)

Restaurant Meals
I have two staples:

I've been in love with Macy's Maurice Salad (Here in Detroit it was originally J.L. Hudson's, then Marshall Fields - I go to the one located inside Oakland Mall in Troy, MI)  I've been treating myself  to a large Maurice  (extra olives, extra pickles) a couple of times a year since about 1980. I tried it on a whim once when I took my oldest daughter (then about 2 years old) to lunch at the beautiful restaurant  on one of the upper levels of the original Hudson's building in Downtown Detroit. *Fond memories*

My other all time favorite is the J. Alexander's Filet Mignon with Bearnaise. For me this is a signature dish and it is the only thing I ever order from J. Al's.  I think the secret to this succulent dish is the hickory wood they use.  They season it to sheer perfection - trust me there is no need for steak sauce! I just ate there this past weekend with my husband and a group of married couples (and one single friend). I kid you not, I went to bed thinking about what a great dining experience it had been.

Sidebar: Kudo's to J. Alexander's - W. Bloomfield.  They accommodated our large group with absolute excellence.  Although they do not accept reservations, we did call ahead to "warn" them that approximately 20 would be dining there. When the first few of us arrived, we were seated immediately and to our surprise they had actually prepared a section for us.  We were served in a very timely manner, the staff was helpful and friendly and again, the food was superb!










Last but not least is a novel I recently read:
Long Time Coming by Vanessa Miller.  See my entire review and purchase the book.

Queen and B***h are Oxymorons

Some women claim they want to be treated like a queen, yet their behavior is contrary. Some even proudly refer to themselves by the "b-word." It's difficult to go to any public venue with the exception of a house of worship without hearing some woman either refer to herself or another woman/girl as a female dog.

Honestly, do you WANT to be an animal? In the beginning God created all types of animals...two-legged, four legged, feathered and scaled. Genesis 1:27 says, "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and femal He created them."  God instructed Adam to name each and every creature and to have dominion over them.

 Later in Genesis after God created Eve, Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman because she was take out of Man."

Adam named a-n-i-m-a-l-s and ruled over them; but when God created Adam's helpmeet he called herwoman, because she was a part of him.  Both of them were parts of God.  God didn't create a dog to reflect His glory and majesty! When a women refers to herself as a bitch,  she's actually blaspheming against her own creation.

Today's society all too often applauds lewd, wild, brash, aggressive behavior in women and erroneously associates that behavior with feminine power while nothing could be further from the truth.  When a woman is confident in her skill set, whether in business, sports, politics, socially or personal relationships, she does not behave like a raving shrew. 

You can't go around making a public spectacle of yourself and expect to be treated like a queen.  Sadly, many of these self-proclaimed female dogs are knocked off kilter when they learn that the object of their affection has married someone else.  Someone who behaves totally opposite of them.

If a man encourages "doggy" behavior in the woman he is dating he doesn't to be WITH her, he wants to be ENTERTAINED by her.  He is amused by watching her and other women clawing and gnawing at each other. Hmmm, isn't that what they do at dog fights?  She's not his girlfriend, she's his pet!

Pet owners control pets.  Queen are self controlled.

The keys to feminine empowerment lie in your ability to maintain self control and not trying to control others. Self-control stems from the powers of the soul, which all of us possess.  A person's greatness or inferiority is recognizable when he gets angry. The logical person does not lose control of himself. It's like a pressure cooker that has a little hole on the top to release the pressure. If you didn't have that little hole, the pot would explode. One should not bottle up his emotions, because that will cause mental anguish. However, although you have to speak, your tone of voice and how you say things make the difference.

Building a [successful life] requires self-control and knowing how and when to speak. We sometimes lose control of ourselves and out of anger, say things that we later regret. Many times the regret does not rectify the damage that was done.

Queens control their personal space. Who is in your sphere of personal influence.

Who are you talking to and who are you listening to?  Who are you watching?  Whose behavior are you replicating?

Who is watching you?  

I can't tell you how often I'm at the grocery store, gas station or a library for instance when someone comes up to me and greets me by name.  A lot of the time a face might be familiar but I'm not always able to pinpoint where we may have met.  Even though I'm embarrassed because they have me at a slight disadvantage, I don't pretend to know them.  Instead, I will simply ask them to remind me how we know each other.  Often it's a situation where we've never had a personal encounter but they tell me I see you all the time at such and such a place...  Now that's just the people who actually make contact with me.  I can only imagine that there are probably more people who see me but DON'T make contact.  What this means is that people are watching us all - and most of the time we don't even know it.

Don't care?  Let me explain to you why you should care (but not to the point of paranoia): In your own right, you are some form of celebrity and your reputation absolutely does preceed you.  You may find yourself seeking employment, a new home or to be accepted into an influential social organization and you will need a referral.  Being accepted is often not predicated solely on your educational or professional background; but also on your connections and your reputation.  No one wants you in their workplace, or want to patronize your wonderful catering business if the word is out that you pride yourself on "getting with people."

What legacy does your behavior leave?

Have you ever wondered why some families always seem to be in turmoil while others operate in loving bliss?  It is because, unless the cycle is broken - either positively or negatively, the behavior  witnessed during childhood is repeated from generation to generation.  Witnessing adults argue, swear and physically fight leaves children to believe it's alright for them to do the same and sadly in some dysfunctional settings, it actually is encouraged by adults.  

Queens control their emotions.  You don't have to spout off, threaten people or grab a handful of hair if you feel you're disrespected.  Some women are such hot heads they want to "get busy" just because they don't like the way someone looked at them.  Walk away.  It's not worth raising your blood pressure.

Queens distance themselves from people who think and act negatively and encourage negative behavior.  If your friends are drama "queens", you're a drama queen too.  


Don't let people bring you "bones."  Stop the gossips in their track when they want to bring you what somebody said about you.  Let gossip die from neglect.  So what if they are talking about you, they're making you famous.

You can control how the man in your life treats you.

You teach people how to treat you.  If you start out tolerating his short comings he is not going to be motivated to improve them.  That is why it is important to take your time to get to know someone before attaching yourself to them.  All of us are on our best behavior when we want to impress someone, but there are personal boundaries that need to be set and adhered to from the first phone call. Be reasonable but if a man does not treat you like the queen you claim to be, don't expect him to change.  Chalk it up to being mismatched and give him a pink slip. Neither being needy and whiny nor being combative and menacing will endear you to him. 

A real woman knows her worth and shows her worth by not allowing herself to be involved with someone who doesn't value her. 

Your words and your behavior dictate whether you're a queen or a pet:

Proverbs 21:9

It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

2 Timothy 3:6

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

Proverbs 18:21 ESV 

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.

Proverbs 12:18 ESV 

There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Matthew 15:18 ESV 

But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.

Ephesians 4:29 ESV

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Matthew 12:36 ESV 

I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,

Proverbs 16:24 ESV 

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.

Colossians 3:8 ESV

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

Proverbs 13:3 ESV 

Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.

James 1:26 ESV 

If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless.

Matthew 12:37 ESV 

For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”

Proverbs 21:23 ESV 

Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Proverbs 29:20 ESV 

Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

Psalm 19:14 ESV 

Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.

Proverbs 15:4 ESV 

A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.

James 3:1-12 ESV 

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! ...

John 1:1 ESV 

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

Romans 12:14 ESV 

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.

Proverbs 25:11 ESV 

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.

Proverbs 17:27 ESV 

Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.

Proverbs 15:2 ESV 

The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.

Esther, the Example of a Powerful Queen

Esther had perfect self-control. The ability to be queen over herself is what made her queen over the world.

Let us learn the lesson of self-control and silence from the queen whose name was Hadassah and Esther. Hadassah, the one who suffers, was Esther, the hidden one, who kept silent about her ancestry for nine years in order to redeem the Jewish people.

Of the Proverbs 31 Woman, King Lemuel's Mother has this to say...

Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoine in time to come.  She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs. 31:25-26

Want to be a treated like a queen? Don't behave like a dog