Some women claim they want to be treated like a queen, yet their behavior is contrary. Some even proudly refer to themselves by the "b-word." It's difficult to go to any public venue with the exception of a house of worship without hearing some woman either refer to herself or another woman/girl as a female dog.
Honestly, do you WANT to be an animal? In the beginning God created all types of animals...two-legged, four legged, feathered and scaled. Genesis 1:27 says, "So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and femal He created them." God instructed Adam to name each and every creature and to have dominion over them.
Later in Genesis after God created Eve, Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman because she was take out of Man."
Adam named a-n-i-m-a-l-s and ruled over them; but when God created Adam's helpmeet he called herwoman, because she was a part of him. Both of them were parts of God. God didn't create a dog to reflect His glory and majesty! When a women refers to herself as a bitch, she's actually blaspheming against her own creation.
Today's society all too often applauds lewd, wild, brash, aggressive behavior in women and erroneously associates that behavior with feminine power while nothing could be further from the truth. When a woman is confident in her skill set, whether in business, sports, politics, socially or personal relationships, she does not behave like a raving shrew.
You can't go around making a public spectacle of yourself and expect to be treated like a queen. Sadly, many of these self-proclaimed female dogs are knocked off kilter when they learn that the object of their affection has married someone else. Someone who behaves totally opposite of them.
If a man encourages "doggy" behavior in the woman he is dating he doesn't to be WITH her, he wants to be ENTERTAINED by her. He is amused by watching her and other women clawing and gnawing at each other. Hmmm, isn't that what they do at dog fights? She's not his girlfriend, she's his pet!
Pet owners control pets. Queen are self controlled.
The keys to feminine empowerment lie in your ability to maintain self control and not trying to control others. Self-control stems from the powers of the soul, which all of us possess. A person's greatness or inferiority is recognizable when he gets angry. The logical person does not lose control of himself. It's like a pressure cooker that has a little hole on the top to release the pressure. If you didn't have that little hole, the pot would explode. One should not bottle up his emotions, because that will cause mental anguish. However, although you have to speak, your tone of voice and how you say things make the difference.
Building a [successful life] requires self-control and knowing how and when to speak. We sometimes lose control of ourselves and out of anger, say things that we later regret. Many times the regret does not rectify the damage that was done.
Queens control their personal space. Who is in your sphere of personal influence.
Who are you talking to and who are you listening to? Who are you watching? Whose behavior are you replicating?
Who is watching you?
I can't tell you how often I'm at the grocery store, gas station or a library for instance when someone comes up to me and greets me by name. A lot of the time a face might be familiar but I'm not always able to pinpoint where we may have met. Even though I'm embarrassed because they have me at a slight disadvantage, I don't pretend to know them. Instead, I will simply ask them to remind me how we know each other. Often it's a situation where we've never had a personal encounter but they tell me I see you all the time at such and such a place... Now that's just the people who actually make contact with me. I can only imagine that there are probably more people who see me but DON'T make contact. What this means is that people are watching us all - and most of the time we don't even know it.
Don't care? Let me explain to you why you should care (but not to the point of paranoia): In your own right, you are some form of celebrity and your reputation absolutely does preceed you. You may find yourself seeking employment, a new home or to be accepted into an influential social organization and you will need a referral. Being accepted is often not predicated solely on your educational or professional background; but also on your connections and your reputation. No one wants you in their workplace, or want to patronize your wonderful catering business if the word is out that you pride yourself on "getting with people."
What legacy does your behavior leave?
Have you ever wondered why some families always seem to be in turmoil while others operate in loving bliss? It is because, unless the cycle is broken - either positively or negatively, the behavior witnessed during childhood is repeated from generation to generation. Witnessing adults argue, swear and physically fight leaves children to believe it's alright for them to do the same and sadly in some dysfunctional settings, it actually is encouraged by adults.
Don't let people bring you "bones." Stop the gossips in their track when they want to bring you what somebody said about you. Let gossip die from neglect. So what if they are talking about you, they're making you famous.
You can control how the man in your life treats you.
You teach people how to treat you. If you start out tolerating his short comings he is not going to be motivated to improve them. That is why it is important to take your time to get to know someone before attaching yourself to them. All of us are on our best behavior when we want to impress someone, but there are personal boundaries that need to be set and adhered to from the first phone call. Be reasonable but if a man does not treat you like the queen you claim to be, don't expect him to change. Chalk it up to being mismatched and give him a pink slip. Neither being needy and whiny nor being combative and menacing will endear you to him.
A real woman knows her worth and shows her worth by not allowing herself to be involved with someone who doesn't value her.
Your words and your behavior dictate whether you're a queen or a pet:
Proverbs 21:9
It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
2 Timothy 3:6
For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
Proverbs 18:21 ESV
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
Proverbs 12:18 ESV
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Matthew 15:18 ESV
But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person.
Ephesians 4:29 ESV
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Matthew 12:36 ESV
I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,
Proverbs 16:24 ESV
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.
Colossians 3:8 ESV
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
Proverbs 13:3 ESV
Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.
James 1:26 ESV
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless.
Matthew 12:37 ESV
For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Proverbs 21:23 ESV
Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 29:20 ESV
Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Psalm 19:14 ESV
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.
Proverbs 15:4 ESV
A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
James 3:1-12 ESV
Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire! ...
John 1:1 ESV
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
Romans 12:14 ESV
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.
Proverbs 25:11 ESV
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.
Proverbs 17:27 ESV
Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
Proverbs 15:2 ESV
The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.
Esther, the Example of a Powerful Queen
Esther had perfect self-control. The ability to be queen over herself is what made her queen over the world.
Let us learn the lesson of self-control and silence from the queen whose name was Hadassah and Esther. Hadassah, the one who suffers, was Esther, the hidden one, who kept silent about her ancestry for nine years in order to redeem the Jewish people.
Of the Proverbs 31 Woman, King Lemuel's Mother has this to say...
Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoine in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs. 31:25-26
Want to be a treated like a queen? Don't behave like a dog
